i am a single mum who has just started workin full time i have two kids a 3 yr old and a 1 and a hal yr old and before i worked my kids were so good they were never bad for me neither were they rude. i have put them in care with a childminder when im at work and they love going there but as soon as i go and pick them up they start being so naughty and have become rude to me. i dont know what i have done wrong ive only gone to work to make a better life for me and my children.

they dont understand your reasons for leaving them.. talk to them and make special time for them let them know you miss them and are happy to see them and love them.. but let them know that acting like that does not get them special attention as then they will do it all the time to get the same reaction..if that makes sence!